Gentlemen, you’re in luck: theCITYSCENE intercepted several letters to Santa, analyzed the data, and discovered the top 10 things every woman wants from her partner, especially during the holidays.
Here’s how to secure your spot on her Nice List this year.
1. IT'S THE LITTLE THINGS
The holidays are for spending time with family and friends to share good spirit and holiday cheer. But the holiday season can also be a stressful time, especially for the woman in your life. Women usually pay extra attention to the holidays, making sure that everything is perfect for the ones that are most special to them. Gentlemen, in the days leading up to Christmas, a box of chocolate-covered pretzels, some fuzzy socks, or a holiday scented candle will melt her heart.
2. TAKE A SLEIGH RIDE
The idea of an old fat man fully clad in a red suit, dashing through the snow in a one-horse open sleigh may not be the most romantic image ever. But there is a lot to be said for a classic sleigh ride this time of year. Bring a nice bottle of wine, bundle up under warm blankets, hold hands, and – if you’re lucky – kiss under the stars for an unforgettable romantic night out.
3. DESTRESS BY THE FIRE
Baby it’s cold outside – so light the fire and set the mood for a relaxing night in. Play her favorite songs or snuggle up for a holiday movie marathon. And for the ultimate way to win her heart and show her you care, a foot massage will provide relaxation and reduce her stress like nothing else.
4. PLAN A WEEKEND GETAWAY
Nothing says Christmas like 80-degree weather and palm trees by the pool. Hop on a plane or fire up the family sleigh and escape together. If the tropics aren’t on your list, book a weekend at a winery or spa or spend a few nights at one of Pittsburgh’s luxurious upscale hotels and let someone else serve the coffee, make the bed, and stir up a thirst-quenching morning mimosa filled with vitamin C, Dom Perignon, and not a worry in the world.
5. TUCK THE ELVES IN EARLY AND COOK DINNER
The winter holidays are extra special for children – but the fact is, kids can sometimes add to the stress of the season. If you really want to make a difference, take on bedtime duties with the little ones and plan a nice meal for just the two of you. You don’t have to be a trained chef to step into the kitchen. Pick something you can cook together, have fun, and keep the flame alive.
6. DON'T GET YOUR TINSEL IN A TANGLE
Let’s face it: a huge factor in holiday stress is dealing with the in-laws. Ellen Griswold got it right when she said, “…it’s Christmas, and we’re all in misery.” Nevertheless, your partner’s family should be treated with love, consideration, and a little extra patience during this season. Don’t add to the chaos by being a Grinch. Help her pick out the gifts, grab the spirits, and wrap some presents. Take it upon yourself to organize time with both sides of the family instead of just showing up when you’re told to. Even though the holidays can be hectic, it’s important to focus on having fun, enjoying great food and delicious cocktails, and making others feel special.
7. PENCIL SWEET NOTHINGS
“On the 10th day of Christmas my true love gave to me: a heartfelt card telling me how much he loves, adores, and appreciates me.” Sure, those may not be the real lyrics, but we think they should be. Simply sharing why you love her can mean the world. Hallmark is still business for a reason, after all.
8. GIFT HER SOMETHING FROM THE NAUGHTY LIST
Looking to spice it up for the holidays? Make a nice dinner, dine on those well-known aphrodisiac foods, and sip some fine spirits.
Turn on some Christmas slow jams, light those holiday candles, and slip into a hot and steamy bubble bath together.
9. DON'T SUBMIT A 20-PAGE CHRISTMAS LIST REQUEST
For men, Christmas shopping sometimes consists of running around like a rabid reindeer on Christmas Eve trying to locate, purchase, and somehow wrap something up for a special someone. But please note, she’s probably been searching for clues at least 6 months in advance for your perfect present. However, you’re not an overgrown 8-year-old, so when she asks you what you want for this year don’t submit an extensive list of expensive golf clubs, flat screen TVS for your man cave, or 23 of this year’s hottest new gadgets. You could however drop a few hints on things that you enjoy so she isn’t so stressed – just don’t add to the stress with out-of-this-world requests. Most importantly, remind her that there could be no greater gift than just spending time with her for the holidays.
10. give her the hallmark experience
During the festive season, many women want to feel like they are in a Hallmark movie. So, take her ice skating and hold her hand as you skate around like an elf, then sip some delicious hot chocolate together while welcoming snowflakes on your head. Give her your ear muffs or jacket to show her your thoughtful and protective side. Don’t forget to enjoy Pittsburgh’s best outdoor ice-skating rink, located beneath the world’s most Ginormous Christmas Tree (at least to us!), at PPG place downtown. While in the area, be sure to treat her to a romantic dinner at one of the city’s many fine restaurants, such as Ruth’s Chris – located directly across from the ice rink. It’s their 35th business anniversary in the city of Pittsburgh, which is all the more reason to celebrate!
bonus points: get the tree without being a grinch
If there’s anything those viral TikToks have taught us, it’s that there’s something sexy about a man brandishing an axe in 12-degree weather. Cut the tree down, strap it to the car, and bring it home like the prize trophy it is. No grinchy grumbling or complaining – and definitely no squirrels – please.